孩子的脾气都是你带出来的！孩子愤怒时，我们该怎么做

换皮ing 发表于 2021-7-14 16:44:25

<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">曾经在刷微博时，看到一则让人心塞的新闻。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">江苏盐城有个男孩因为调皮，弄坏了饭店里的物品，不得不找妈妈替自己赔偿。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">妈妈赔偿之后，因为不满孩子的行为，就开始训斥指责他。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">结果，男孩不但不认错，反而愤怒地冲上去打妈妈，还掐妈妈脖子。<p mpa-paragraph-type="image" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这下，妈妈也彻底被激怒了，和男孩扭打起来。<span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0px; font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;">还是同桌的人看不下去，上去拉开了孩子。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这时，他们已经吸引了不少人围观。 <p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">可妈妈却还在为孩子的行为生气，不停地数落他，最后又激怒了孩子，两人再次扭打成一团。<p mpa-paragraph-type="image" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">围观的群众都说，这孩子脾气太差了，不好好管教一下是不行的。 <p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">看到这，心里头真是五味参杂。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">和这位妈妈还有围观群众一样，生活中有不少家长，无法接受孩子的愤怒情绪，最见不得孩子发怒。 <p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子一发怒，第一反应就是制止。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">因为他们认为，愤怒是不好的代名词，它代表着孩子的行为不妥，脾气不好，是个不懂事的人。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">可事实真是如此吗？<section style="margin: 25px 0px 15px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; font-family: -apple-system, system-ui, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin: 15px 0px 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; font-family: -apple-system, system-ui, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">愤怒，其实是孩子的求救信号</section><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">有心理学研究发现，孩子心中愤怒的最大来源，是他们根深蒂固的认为自己没有人爱。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子愤怒时，虽然面上看着气势汹汹，内心却十分恐惧和痛苦。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">正如前面那个男孩，妈妈的训斥让他觉得妈妈不爱他了，他很害怕很难过，不知道如何是好。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">于是，就愤怒了。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他希望通过愤怒，来引起妈妈的关注。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他的愤怒行为，其实是在呼唤爱，渴求帮助。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">可他妈妈没有意识到这一点，单纯的认为是孩子任性，欠管教。<span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0px; font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;">所以她要收拾孩子，想用暴力把他的怒火压制住。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这样做的后果就是，不管她是输是赢，她都失去了了解和帮助孩子的机会。<span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0px; font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一个不被允许愤怒的孩子，和一个不懂处理愤怒的母亲，注定难以共建和谐的未来。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">著名教育家帕蒂·惠芙乐说：孩子的怒气，通常掩盖着某个可怕的经历。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">没有哪个孩子的愤怒，是突然就有的。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在节目《育儿大师》中，有一期来了个让父母特别头疼的暴躁男孩小花。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在节目里，小花把他爱发怒的特质表现得淋漓尽致。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">比如，和妈妈一起出门买菜做任务，回来的路上因为又累又无聊，就发火哭闹。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">或者，饭前因为一点小事，就生气地砸枕头，跑到角落里大哭大闹。<p mpa-paragraph-type="image" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">大家都觉得这孩子太皮了，稍不如意就发火，完全不考虑别人的感受。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">可后来大家才知道，小花3岁以前，就没跟父母在一起生活过，一直由爷爷奶奶抚养。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">父母长期缺位，小花内心其实是非常缺爱的。<span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0px; font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;">他用愤怒燃烧一切，其实都是在试探父母对自己的爱。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">美国儿童心理学家鲁道夫·德雷克斯说：一个行为不当的孩子，是一个丧失信心的孩子。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子愤怒的背后，是爱和信心的匮乏。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如果我们一味排斥孩子的愤怒，就永远不可能看到这背后的真相。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">也永远不会知道，孩子愤怒时，其实最需要我们的爱和帮助。<section style="margin: 25px 0px 15px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; font-family: -apple-system, system-ui, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </section><p style="margin-top: 15px; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; font-family: -apple-system, system-ui, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">愤怒不可怕 可怕的是亲子联结断裂<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">心理学家李雪曾说，我们睁着眼，却是全盲。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">深以为然。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们很多人，明明爱孩子爱到骨子里，疼孩子疼到心尖上，却唯独忘了去认真了解孩子的需求和想法。 <p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">曾看过一段名为“这是我见过最可怕的孩子”的视频。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">讲的是家庭教育专家兰海，在帮助管教一个情绪失控的男孩。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">视频一开始，男孩就已处于很愤怒的状态了。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他砸椅子，掀桌子，丢东西，攻击人，已经完全失控。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">然而面对愤怒的孩子，他妈妈却仿佛置身事外。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">既看不见孩子内心的呼救，也没有主动上去安抚孩子，只是冷漠地坐在一旁观望。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">和妈妈失去了情感联结，感受不到爱的男孩，愈发愤怒，哭得撕心裂肺。<p mpa-paragraph-type="image" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">愤怒作为一种原始的情绪，本是为了保护自己而存在。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如果父母忽视或压制孩子的愤怒，就会让孩子内心失去安全感，失去对父母的信任。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">亲子联结，也就开始慢慢断裂。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">使得孩子要么变得越来越暴躁易怒，不懂控制自己的情绪，要么变得过分乖巧懂事，未来形成讨好型人格。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">曾在知乎上看过一个网友心酸的分享。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">该网友小时候，花了很长时间折了一罐纸鹤，打算送给外婆当生日礼物。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">可有一天，家里来了个亲戚家的熊孩子，嚷嚷着要拿走那罐纸鹤。<span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0px; font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;">网友不同意，结果她妈妈过来直接粗暴地抢走，送给了那个熊孩子。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">网友瞬间就怒了，她歇斯底里的哭喊着，冲上去抢她的罐子。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">结果，她被妈妈拎起来狂揍了一顿，骂她不懂事，小心眼，脾气大……<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">网友被打得心灰意冷，彻底断了抗争的念头。<span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0px; font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;">后来，她就很少跟大人抗争了，反正抗争也没用，心也凉了。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">她变成了一个“乖孩子”，但却很难再与父母亲近了。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子发怒不可怕，真正可怕的是，孩子内心关闭了联结父母的通道。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0px; font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;">从此势单力薄一个人，身在人群却如孤鹤，独自背着一身伤痛缓慢前行。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这一切，孩子无力挽回。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">可作为父母的我们，却是可以的。<section style="margin: 25px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; font-family: -apple-system, system-ui, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><p style="margin-top: 15px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; font-family: -apple-system, system-ui, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">看见，是疗愈的开始<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我曾在《倾听孩子》一书中，看过一个真实案例。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">有个单亲妈妈，独自带着两个儿子生活。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">有一年弟弟生日，她按照弟弟之前的要求，给他送了一件和哥哥差不多的生日礼物。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">可弟弟收到礼物时，却很愤怒，他大喊：<span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0px; font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;">“你为什么送我这个？<span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0px; font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;">你心里根本没有我！<span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0px; font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;">只有哥哥……”<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一串激烈言辞之后，他就要去摔礼物。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">但妈妈没有训斥他，她看见了隐藏在孩子愤怒后的东西——孩子觉得自己不被重视，对妈妈的爱产生了质疑。<p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); text-align: justify;"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">于是，她平静地说：<blockquote mpa-paragraph-type="quote" style="margin: 25px 0px; padding: 4px 0px 0px 10px; border-left: 3px solid rgb(219, 219, 219); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-size: 17px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“我很遗憾你不喜欢它，但我的确想要送你一件好礼物。” “我非常爱你，决不愿意伤害你。”</blockquote><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">她边说边靠近孩子，把手放在他身上。<blockquote mpa-paragraph-type="quote" style="margin: 25px 0px; padding: 4px 0px 0px 10px; border-left: 3px solid rgb(219, 219, 219); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-size: 17px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“皮特，自从你出生那天你对于我就非常宝贵。” “在我眼里，你那时是美丽的，现在你依然是完美的。”</blockquote><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">听到这，弟弟开始哭了，他们拥抱在了一起。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">妈妈接着说：“你想再多知道一点儿你小时候我有多爱你吗？”<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">弟弟点点头。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">于是他们一起躺下来，互相依偎着，开始回忆往日的幸福。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">就这样，在妈妈无条件的爱和认真的倾听下，弟弟彻底平静了下来，并高兴的接受了生日礼物。<p mpa-paragraph-type="image" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">心理学家李雪说，看见是疗愈的开始。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">当孩子愤怒时，我们要把它看成一种暗示，并问自己：“孩子想要的是什么？”<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">愤怒的背后，定有所求。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">然后，我们只需平静的，温和的，不断给予孩子爱和帮助，孩子就能慢慢变得平静。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">值得注意的是，千万不要跟愤怒中的孩子讲道理，更不要斥责批评他。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这只会让孩子觉得，你在意的是对错，并不是他，进而导致亲子联结再次断裂。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子愤怒时，接纳的效果远比说教要大得多。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在美剧《小谢尔顿》里，有这么一幕。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">小谢尔顿突然在餐桌上发脾气，并愤怒离座。<span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; letter-spacing: 0px; font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;">可他爸爸找到他时，并没有责怪他，而是认真的听他说狠话。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">直到小谢尔顿发泄完，爸爸才走上去，坐在他身边，跟他分享他同样糟糕的一天。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">并跟他说：“所以，我理解你经历的事情。”<p mpa-paragraph-type="image" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">爸爸的接纳，让小谢尔顿很快平静了下来。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">所以，最后小谢尔顿对于爸爸提的建议，都欣然接受了。<p mpa-paragraph-type="image" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一场怒火，就此彻底熄灭。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">所以，面对孩子的愤怒，最好的做法是：接纳愤怒，看见需求。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">只有这样，孩子才能感受到自己被理解了，才会愿意对父母敞开心怀，才会愿意听取父母的意见，才能学会更合适的表达愤怒的方法。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">李玫瑾说过：孩子的脾气，是家长带出来的。 <p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们都希望孩子能有个好心态、好情绪、好未来。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">然而，再优秀的孩子也会有愤怒的情绪。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">只有懂得好好回应孩子情绪的父母，才能让孩子从中习得处理情绪的最佳方式。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">只有爱，能穿越愤怒，联结孩子的内心，使孩子和我们越走越近。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">海子的诗《活在珍贵的人间》里写着：活在这珍贵的人间，太阳强烈，水波温柔。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这太阳，正如孩童冉冉升起的未来，这水波，恰似父母慈爱的温柔。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(62, 62, 62); letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 1.75; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">人间珍贵，爱更珍贵。<p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-top: 25px; margin-bottom: 25px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; 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